Life isn\u2019t about waiting for the storm to pass, We all strive for peace of mind.<\/p>\n Here are some ways to maintain peace of mind in tough times:<\/b><\/p>\n \u201cIt isn\u2019t as bad as you sometimes think it is.\u00a0 As you heal and grow, it will all work out.\u00a0 Relax and trust yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n Repeat that in your mind every morning.\u00a0 Because the truth is, it all works out in the end.\u00a0 Put your full trust in yourself by following your intuition and doing your best, and then move forward one step at a time with faith and confidence in the future.\u00a0 Life will not forsake you.\u00a0 Love, persistence, and hard work combined rarely lead a person astray in the long run.<\/p>\n If you have faith in your abilities, if you stay true to the path that feels right, if you channel your passion into action, you will ultimately achieve a breakthrough.\u00a0 In other words, as soon as you trust yourself you will know how to heal and grow<\/a>.<\/p>\n Mistakes and setbacks are simply a form of practice.<\/p>\n If the road is easy and free of bumps, you\u2019re likely going the wrong way.\u00a0 The bumps in the road teach you what you need to know to progress down a path that is all your own.\u00a0 Sometimes things have to go wrong in order to go right.\u00a0 Sometimes you need to change a flat tire or two before you can move on.<\/p>\n Bottom line:\u00a0 Your journey isn\u2019t supposed to be easy, it\u2019s supposed to be worth it.\u00a0 To never struggle is to never grow.\u00a0 There is no perfectly smooth road to anyplace worth going.<\/p>\n Life is under no obligation to give you exactly what you expect.\u00a0 Whatever it is you\u2019re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you\u2019re expecting.\u00a0 Don\u2019t miss the silver lining because you were expecting gold.<\/p>\n You must see and accept things as they are instead of as you hoped, wished, or expected them to be.\u00a0 Just because it didn\u2019t turn out as you had envisioned, doesn\u2019t mean it isn\u2019t exactly what you need to get to where you ultimately want to go.<\/p>\n You aren\u2019t alone; let someone special in when you\u2019re in a dark place.\u00a0 You know who this person is.\u00a0 Don\u2019t expect them to solve your problems; just allow them to face your problems with you.\u00a0 Give them permission to stand beside you.\u00a0 They won\u2019t necessarily be able to pull you out of the dark place you\u2019re in, but the light that spills in when they enter will at least show you which way the door is.<\/p>\n Above all, the important thing to remember is that you are not alone.\u00a0 No matter how bizarre or embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, there is someone in your life who has dealt with similar emotions and who wants to help you.\u00a0 When you hear yourself say, \u201cI am alone,\u201d it\u2019s just your insecurities trying to sell you a lie.\u00a0 (Read Daring Greatly<\/a>.)<\/em><\/p>\n Only in the dark can you see the stars.\u00a0 The stars are hope.\u00a0 Look for them.<\/p>\n The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for.\u00a0 And the most you can do is live inside that hope as you work for what you want.\u00a0 Do not admire what you hope for from a distance, but live right in it.\u00a0 Get deeply involved with the thoughts and activities that keep your hope alive and your intention possible.<\/p>\n No, hope alone will not save you from despair.\u00a0 Hope empowers you to strive and grow even when your circumstances are in shambles.\u00a0 The road that is built with hope is more pleasant than the road built in despair, even though they both may seem to lead you to the same place in the short term.\u00a0 But it is the positive growth you attain on your way to this temporary place that will benefit your final destination.<\/p>\n It\u2019s all about balance \u2013 accepting reality without giving up on what needs to be done to reach your desired destination in the long run.<\/p>\n \u201cDon\u2019t think about eating that chocolate cookie!\u201d\u00a0 What are you thinking about now?\u00a0 Eating that chocolate cookie, right?\u00a0 When you concentrate on not thinking about something, you end up thinking about it.<\/p>\n The same philosophy holds true when it comes to freeing your mind from a negative past.\u00a0 By persistently trying to move away from what you don\u2019t want, you are forced to think about it so much that you end up carrying its weight along with you.\u00a0 But if you instead choose to focus your energy on moving toward something you do want, you naturally leave the negative weight behind as you progress forward.<\/p>\n Bottom line:\u00a0 Instead of concentrating on eliminating the negative, concentrate on creating something positive (that just happens to replace the negative).\u00a0 (Read Learned Optimism<\/a>.)<\/em><\/p>\n Everything seems simpler from a distance.\u00a0 Sometimes you simply need to distance yourself to see things more clearly.<\/p>\n You are more than whatever is troubling you.\u00a0 A very real part of you exists beyond your worries, beyond your doubts, independent from the troubles and frustrations of the present moment.\u00a0 Step back and observe yourself as you experience each moment.\u00a0 Be present.\u00a0 Watch yourself as you think, as you take action, as you experience emotions.\u00a0 Your body may experience pain, and yet that pain is not you.\u00a0 Your mind may encounter troubles, and yet you are not those troubles.<\/p>\n Think of the most difficult challenge you face right now.\u00a0 Imagine that it\u2019s not you, but a close friend who is facing this challenge.\u00a0 What advice would you give her?\u00a0 If you could step back and, instead of being the subject, look at your situation as an objective observer, would you look at it any differently?\u00a0 Think of the advice you would give your friend if your friend were in your shoes.\u00a0 Are you following your own best advice right now?<\/p>\n Don\u2019t allow your current troubles to cloud your thinking.\u00a0 Take a few steps back and give yourself the benefit of this distance, and then give yourself some great advice<\/a>.<\/p>\n Take all the time you need.\u00a0 Emotional healing is a process; don\u2019t rush yourself through it.\u00a0 Don\u2019t let others force you through it either.\u00a0 Moving on doesn\u2019t take a day; it takes lots of little steps to be able to break free of your broken past and your wounded self.<\/p>\n Take today breath by breath, one step at a time.\u00a0 Never let trouble from the past make you feel like you have a bad life now.\u00a0 Just because yesterday was painful doesn\u2019t mean today will be too.\u00a0 Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.\u00a0 Today you have a choice to explore these parts of yourself.\u00a0 Give yourself the needed time and permission to explore and heal.\u00a0 (Marc and I discuss this in more detail in the Adversity and Growth chapters of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently<\/a>.)<\/em><\/p>\n A wise man once said, \u201cEvery new beginning comes from some other beginning\u2019s end.\u201d\u00a0 Today is a new beginning; treat it that way.\u00a0 Stop thinking about what might have been and starting looking at what can be.<\/p>\n Say to yourself: \u201cDear Past, thank you for all the life lessons you have taught me.\u00a0 Dear Future, I am ready now!\u201d\u00a0 Because a great beginning always occurs at the exact moment you thought would be the end of everything.<\/p>\n What\u2019s gives you peace of mind when times are tough and stressful?\u00a0 Please leave a comment below and let us know.<\/p>\n
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\n\u2015Vivian Greene<\/em><\/p>\n1.\u00a0 Learn to trust yourself.<\/h3>\n
2.\u00a0 Focus on what you\u2019re learning.<\/h3>\n
3.\u00a0 Ease your expectations.<\/h3>\n
4.\u00a0 Open up to someone you trust.<\/h3>\n
5.\u00a0 Use hope to drive positive action.<\/h3>\n
6.\u00a0 Move TOWARDS something instead of AWAY.<\/h3>\n
7.\u00a0 Take a few steps back.<\/h3>\n
8.\u00a0 Give yourself time.<\/h3>\n
9.\u00a0 Look for the beginning in every ending.<\/h3>\n
The floor is yours\u2026<\/h3>\n